The 4 I’s Every Entrepreneur Needs to Know

March 30, 2017

As an entrepreneur, your ability to achieve your vision will depend to a significant extent on these four very critical "I's."  Simple and powerful, if you keep these 4 I's in your vision and in your mind, you'll be far more effective at achieving your entrepreneurial mission and vision.


Own Your Life

March 7, 2017

Owning your life is simple: Own who you are today.  Own who you will become.  Own the process.  But to "own" means to take responsibility.  Owning your life is not a selfish endeavor, either.  Nope, not at all.  It's the best way for you to make an impact on the world.


Relationship Relevant Marketing Episode 12: Mitigation of Pain

February 21, 2017

Mitigation of pain is an essential action if we are to move the prospect outside of their state of uncertainty, and the pain, fear, and doubt that accompanies that state.  As entrepreneurs, we seek to create a journey for them that gives them hope and confidence that they can pursue the life they desire.  


Follow Your Passion and the Profit Will Come

February 3, 2017

You've heard people say: "follow your passion and the profit will come," but do you understand there is more to it than that?  There is profound truth in that old sage philosophy, but unless you the byproduct of your pursuit is impact on the lives of others, you're not going to stay the course.  Your passion will become your demise.


Relationship Relevant Marketing Episode 11: Visualization

January 27, 2017

Visualization blended into your content and experiences is essential to help the prospect "see" how your influence can help them get where they want to go.  To the extent that you can create a journey of expectation, reinforced by their ability to see the result, you will stay engaged.  Engagement is critical if you are to stay in the game long enough to make a difference in their lives!


The Solo Entrepreneur Impact Ripple Effect

January 24, 2017

The solo entrepreneur is a powerful force of change in the world.  Impact is the ultimate mission, and every action is a ripple that ultimately creates change and momentum in the world.


The Rise of Solo Entrepreneurship

January 18, 2017

Solo entrepreneurship, and entrepreneurship in general, are on the rise in the world today because of technology.  It is a force of change that is creating value momentum all around the world.


Relationship Relevant Marketing Episode 10: Consistency

January 17, 2017

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Consistency is a Simple but Powerful Means to Increase Trust and Engagement

In the mind of the prospect, customer or client, consistency creates trust at a basic level and sets the foundation for an ongoing relationship.

Consistency builds on the previously discussed influential variables of Familiarity and Validation as part of the 9 Influential Variables that are critical to engagement and buying decisions.

In the digital world, consistency, or the lack thereof, is one of the most noticeable and recognizable behaviors that can make or break the engagement process.

In the attention economy, and the attention scarcity associated therewith, inconsistency is grounds for deletion from your prospect's attention budget.  In the context of Relationship Relevant Marketing, consistency will sustain engagement, whereas inconsistency will get you ejected from the experience funnel.

Consistency With Intent is the Key

Consistency Defined: Taking action and delivering content and experiences on an on-going and periodic basis with a focused, deliberate intent.

This definition is the key to understanding what "consistency" is in the context of the digital world and the psychology of engagement and buying decisions.

The "deliberate intent" is the essentially the value objective you have for the relationship.  In other words, what value, change, and impact do you want to deliver to the prospect, customer or client?  This is your intent.

Implementing Consistency in Your Content/Experience Plan

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Implementing consistency into your content and experience plan is really very easy.  The discipline of staying the course may be the difficult part!  Note: you can download the adjacent INFOGRAPHIC by CLICKING on it.

Step 1: Content Plan.  Create a detailed content/experience plan.  Go into detail on how you will engage the client and lead them to the final decision.  In this step, inject variety and surprise into the content plan.  Go into great detail on the frequency of delivering the content, and the time of day if appropriate.  Follow your Avatar definition in preparing this plan and strategy.

Step 2: End-Game Objective (EGO).  Get real clear on what your EGO is.  See your client not only taking the action you want, making that decision, but also receiving the value and life-changing impact you seek to deliver.  Know exactly what it is you want them to experience!  Note: the reason the EGO comes after the Content Plan is because, in the process of creating the Content Plan, you will invariably refine what the EGO really is.

Step 3: The Journey.  Your content is, in fact, a kind of experience.  So create a journey that you would want to take.  Create a flow of content that engages the client in a journey from where they are to where the want to go.  Create vivid word and graphic images that allow them to make the journey a reality in their mind.

Step 4: The Roadmap.  Consistency requires that you deliver your content/experiences in a predictable and anticipated manner.  It is important to be consistent so that your client looks forward to the experience of engaging with you.  This roadmap is derived from your Content Plan and from knowing your EGO.  The roadmap will have dates and times, if appropriate, for the delivery of your content/experiences.  Now here is the real value of the roadmap: you seek to make a roadmap of engaging experiences and micro-decisions.  Along the way on this journey to the EGO, you will create those engaging little moments of value, variety, and surprise.  In doing so, you create a mental image journey for your client that leads them to the EGO.


Relationship Relevant Marketing Episode 9: Validation

January 11, 2017

Validation Sets the Foundation of Trust and Impact

Validation is the logical follow-on action after Familiarity.  Why?  Simple: Once you have successfully provided content and/or experiences that are familiar and relevant to the prospect, you have the beginnings of a relationship.  Validation deepens the connection with the prospect and moves that relationship forward.

Validation is recognizing the prospect, customer or client as having value.  In a sense, it's meeting them where they are and acknowledging their situation.  You "validate" their importance and significance as a person.  You make a connection with them at a fundamental level of need.  In the process of authentic validation, you sow the seeds of trust.

Ultimately, you are driving the prospect to a decision.  When they make that decision, whatever it may be, you want it to be a decision made with conviction.  Only by making a decision to buy your product, join your cause or team, or engage in some meaningful and significant manner can they receive the value and realize the positive impact in their lives.  But before you get there, you want to establish a relationship rooted in authenticity, sincerity, and empathy.  Being human in a digital world takes deliberate effort and focused intent.

Implementing Validation in Your Content Strategy

Here are six steps to implementing validation in your content or experience strategy.validation

Step 1: Validate their reality.  A clear Avatar definition is where you start.  Your ideal prospect has values, beliefs, wants, needs, desires, and so forth.  If you align with those, you validate their reality,  You don't want to do it all at once.  Create a flow of content that repeatedly validates their reality, and is so doing you will create a positive correlation with them.

Step 2: Validate their dream.  Everyone has a dream of a life different than they are living.  Even if they believe they are living the "dream life," they look beyond that life to more abundance in one or more areas of their life.  There are common dreams, many of which are associated in one way or another with the 6 Basic Human Needs.  Speak to the possibility and indeed inevitability of attaining that dream, because it leads to the next step!

Step 3: Reveal the process.  The process is the series of decisions and actions the prospect must take in order to attain the dream.  It is the change that must take place in order to move them from where they are now to where they want to be.  Teaching, or revealing, the process in a deliberate, engaging, and congruent manner will create anticipation and engage their Reticular Activation System (RAS).  They will begin to believe their dream is within their grasp.

Step 4: Affirm their confidence.  This is where you move them from possibility to certainty, or at the very least near certainty.  In this step, you create content or experiences that highlight the benefits of having the dream a reality in their life.  You make the results as real as you can.  You integrate "you" into this step as the facilitator who can help them attain their dream.  Make sure and look beyond the benefits to the benefits of the benefits.  For example, the benefit of losing weight may be you can fit into that dress or pair of pants, and this makes you feel good about yourself.  The benefit of the benefit is the affirming reaction you get from others when they notice.  The "benefit of the benefit" is very often more important and engaging than the benefit itself!

Make sure and look beyond the benefits to the benefits of the benefits.  For example, the benefit of losing weight may be you can fit into that dress or pair of pants, and this makes you feel good about yourself.  The benefit of the benefit is the affirming reaction you get from others when they notice.  The "benefit of the benefit" is very often more important and engaging than the benefit itself!

Step 5: The journey to the results. This is where you actually combine the prior 4 steps to create a journey to the future that is their life having reached their goals, attained their dreams, and achieved the result they sought.  The journey affirms the process and makes it real to them.  It shows that inevitability is merely the result of executing the process you recommend: inclusive, of course, of whatever product you are offering.

Step 6: Back from the future.  They've arrived.  They're successful.  The dream is a reality, and they are living large and free!  Now, paint that picture for them and then look back from where they are in this new reality to where they were: which is, in fact, their current reality.  Contrast the two states and show how their decision to engage and implement the process has created a life of their dreams.  This step seeks to validate your value and the value of your product as well as validating their decision process.


Relationship Relevant Marketing Episode 8: Familiarity

January 5, 2017

Familiarity an Essential and Influential Variable in Engagement and Buying Decisions

Familiarity is one of the nine (9) influential variables that drive engagement and buying decisions.  It is the first of the variables you implement in your content and experiences.

Familiarity is one of the core elements of attraction.  People are attracted to that with which they are familiar.  In general, people will develop a "liking" for those things and people with whom they are familiar.  In psychology, this is known as the "mere exposure" effect.  Just the "mere" exposure to something or somebody new that has "familiar" features, characteristics, or traits, is enough to create engagement and preference.

Ever heard of Attraction Marketing?  Well, guess what - Familiarity is a key part of that!

But that kind of "familiarity" isn't really the focus here.  In order to be effective at reaching the mind of your prospects, customers or clients, you need to resonate with that which is famliar in their mind.

This may sound a bit heady and psycho-babble-like, but it is a critically important idea to grasp.

Familiarity has two regimes:

  • The degree of familiarity your prospect, customer or client has in their mind with the content, and the perceived meaning, value, relevance, and importance of that content to them
  • The level of familiarity you have achieved with them and the degree of relevance they attach to that level

The most important of the two regimes is the first one.  The reason is because within the subconscious mind of your prospect there are multiple processes running in parallel.  Some of those processes are looking for "familiar" information.  It is just such information that correlates with the objectives of the subconscious mind and results in the "upload" of a thought that then becomes a relevant thought of conscious intent.

Familiarity Defined

"Familiarity," in the context of the digital psychology of decision making, is the degree to which the mind correlates/associates external information with internal processes and assigns a degree of relevance to that information.

Once relevance has been established, the mind uploads a thought to drive engagement with the given information.

In other words, the message of your content resonates with a need in the mind of the customer, and that results in an action to engage with your content.

Two Types of Familiarity

There are essentially two types of familiarity you will be dealing with:

  1. The common type of familiarity where  the prospect, customer, or client becomes "familiar" with you
  2. The familiarity the prospect, customer, or client has with the content or experiences you are delivering to them

Both of these are important, but what is essential to understand as an online entrepreneur is that the second type leads to the first type.

The reality is that a new prospect doesn't know you.  So the "attraction" factor of familiarity you are working with is focused on how familiar are they with the content you are delivering.  This is not to say that they have to know what you are talking about, no, not at all.  They have to be familiar with how your content resonates with their needs, wants, desires, fears, passions, etc.

When you can establish a presence in their lives with type "2" above, then type "1" follows naturally.

Enter the 6 Basic Human Needs

Here's the deal: we are dealing with people, humans.  We all have basic needs, and the "6 Basic Human Needs" are real in our lives.  Not everyone has the same magnitude of needs, but all of these needs are present in our lives.  As an entrepreneur, your mission is to fulfill one or more of those needs in your own special way.

When creating content, and in particular creating familiarity, understanding which of the 6 Basic Human Needs are fulfilled by your product is critical.

To be clear about the definition of "product:" A product is your goods, services, or leadership.  Your content falls into one or all of those three categories.  While you may have a tangible product or a coaching service to sell, everything you do when producing content is in fact a "product."  Your prospect is "buying" your product when they open your e-mail or click on your link.  So just keep this in mind.

The Two Gateways to the Mind of Your Customer

In the simplest sense, there are two gateways to the mind of your customer.

  1. Conscious Intent Gateway
  2. Subconscious Gateway

The familiarity variable exists in both gateways, but it is most prevalent and effective in the subconscious gateway.